Few of us react to bereavement the way we thought we would. More surprising is how it affects the people around us. If it has brought out the worst in your nearest and dearest, you are not alone. In Issue 9 we interviewed Karen Holford of the Association of Family Therapy about whether it is ever best to cut ties with family. She put … Continue reading When widowhood is a battleground
If you’ve been happily organising the carols concert since June then this is not for you. But if the very words, jingle bells, bring you out in a cold sweat then we have you covered. Secret Santa Buy them a joke-a-day calendar, a candle in a tin or festive socks and think no more about it. Tinsel all over the place The first … Continue reading A survival guide to Christmas in the workplace
Citizen’s Advice issued a statement in February, saying that some employers are tricking their employees out of sick pay. The most common tactics they see are: The cancelling of shifts after an employee has called in sick, so that it looks as if they weren’t meant to be working and therefore no wages appear to have been lost Reducing hours or wages so that … Continue reading Know your rights to sick pay
Long before I’d heard the words, impostor syndrome, the most successful of my friends told me that every day he expected to be found out and fired from his job. I held my breath, wondering what he’d done that would result in such a drastic outcome. He frowned, looking as if he was asking himself the same question. He knew he was good at … Continue reading What Is Your Impostor Syndrome Trying To Tell You?
It might be easier than you think to broaden your horizons. Whether you want to gain a specific vocational qualification or try something just to prove you can, there is a world of free and funded opportunities. For example, did you know that top universities offer courses online for free? Or that there are countries where the colleges and universities don’t charge tuition fees? … Continue reading How to bankroll your next move
According to the TUC and ACAS, modern employers are increasingly seeing time off as a way of rewarding and retaining employees. If there was ever a trend to get in on early, this sounds like the one. A career break is different to sick leave, where a doctor determines that you shouldn’t be working. As there is no statutory bereavement leave in the … Continue reading Career breaks
One take-away from Dan Ariely’s book, The (Honest) Truth about Dishonesty, is that we make worse decisions when we’re stressed. You knew that already but there’s a scientifically proven reason, which is called ego-depletion. What you need to know is that if you have to show serious willpower for a task, cut yourself some slack beforehand. The examples used are around food: to … Continue reading Pace your willpower
Bereavement can make us create dramatic changes in our lives. A drop in household income can make some changes essential. I asked one of the UK’s leading career coaches, Corinne Mills of Personal Career Management, how best to handle big career moves at a time like this.
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Not all employers are created equal so here is a brief guide to helping them help you and what to do if they just don’t get it. There are few hard and fast rules about how to treat bereaved employees but ACAS has produced a booklet for employers – but have a read of it yourself too – called Managing Bereavement In The Workplace … Continue reading What to say to work when you’re struggling
It’s okay. Really. In the first few weeks and months we have to say and hear that word a dozen times a day. Actually, it is excruciating to have to say it ourselves. It’s much easier for us if you do it.
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Q: When my partner died I couldn’t face work or anything else for a couple of years. Now I’m looking for work again and I know most employers only give a week or two for bereavement leave so how do I explain the hole in my CV? A: The main thing employers want to know is how well you’ll fit in. People with good … Continue reading Work Q&A: There’s a hole in my CV