They say you can get away with anything if you walk purposefully and carry a clipboard. At times of uncertainty we all look for the person who seems to know what they’re doing but those are the times when it is most important to be that person in your life. Okay, let’s be honest: none of us really know what we’re doing. At best … Continue reading Statement of intent
If you are worried about children leaving home at the end of this summer, specifically, dreading how you’ll feel without them, then a bit of acceptance and some planning will help.
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Our regular round-up of what we’ve been reading online.
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Three things you can do with your children to help you all support each other after a bereavement, by Karen Holford of the Association of Family Therapy.
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The 19th of November is Children’s Grief Awareness Day. In honour of the great work done by organisations working with bereaved children, here is an article from our archives, first published in Issue 2 of Widows and Widowers magazine. There is also a list of organisations that support bereaved children, at the end of the post. Ideas to help children celebrate their dad’s birthday … Continue reading Ideas to help children celebrate their dad’s birthday
Parents-in-law want to feel that their experience is recognised and all their hard work in raising a family is appreciated. We want to be recognised as fellow grown-ups with plenty experience of our own thank you, and to have our own sacrifices noted once in a while. Those are the basics. On top of that, your mother-in-law might want to have your children live … Continue reading Give and take with the in-laws
He used to spend nearly half his time with us. Now I never see him. There were a few, awkward visits with his mum, in the months after his dad died, but now we only do birthday and Christmas stuff in the post. He’s a shy adolescent who’s been through too much already. I don’t want to be a boring obligation but I don’t … Continue reading Keeping in touch with stepchildren
The elders and youngsters in my family have each handled the death of my husband quite differently. And my approach has been different to both of them. But it turns out that I’m not an island of reasonableness in a sea of eccentrics. We’re just living in a time when there are big differences between the generations. I lazily think of us as three … Continue reading Different attitudes across the generations
Widowed dads who are not being besieged by eager, would-be step-mums do not get much press. Remember Sam Baldwin’s sacks of mail in Sleepless in Seattle or Benjamin Mee’s fridge full of lasagnes in We Bought A Zoo? The hot pursuit of an available man in a retirement community has been the stuff of tv and film comedy for decades. I’m guilty of … Continue reading Welcoming a new widowed dad voice
Your child’s school might have an excellent track record of dealing with bereaved children. Or it might not. Go in prepared, just in case. Some children, particularly as they get older, hate the idea of being subjected to any sort of special treatment and strongly protest about a parent talking to their teachers. They might want no one to know or they might want … Continue reading What to say to teachers
Us Minus Mum is about two boys, their dog and their mum who is dying of a brain tumour. It has just won the first ever UK Literacy Association Highly Commended 7-11 Award. It was also shortlisted for the Carnegie Medal. The author is Heather Butler and you can read more about the book, including an extract, on her website http://www.heatherbutler.info/my-books/us-minus-mum/ Continue reading Book award: Us Minus Mum