The rebuilding of a life that’s been flipped upside down by grief is not a quick job. How to keep going when the grief has passed and you feel less like a widowed person and more like a general wreck, is not something we’ve seen much of in bereavement literature. To fill the gap, we’ve brought together three tweaks to try to lighten your … Continue reading Keep On Keeping On Part 1
The second part of our feature on ideas from leading scientists and therapists to help you with the long haul of rebuilding your life. The limitations of cash and carrots Conventional theories of motivation have been based on the idea of the carrot and stick. To get anyone, including yourself, to do something you have to either offer a reward for doing or … Continue reading Keep On Keeping On Part 2
When the woman cutting my hair says she remembers me from my last appointment my heart sinks. What did I say? How did I gloss over any potential awkwardness and along what unlikely road did that take us? I never used to see the appeal of lying: too much stuff to remember; too much stupidity to feel if found out. Then again, blatantly obvious … Continue reading A new me: the forgetful liar
In tough times our social capital is every bit as important as our financial resources. But it’s a mistake to think of them as separate. There are lots of old and new ways of connecting with others that also boost your bottom line.
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Thinking you’ve left it too late to do what you really want to do? Think again. Vera Wang – designer After a childhood as a championship figure skater, Vera studied art history and worked as a fashion journalist until she was 38. Only then did she go to work for fashion designer Ralph Lauren. She stayed for two years before starting her own bridal … Continue reading Late bloomers
It might be easier than you think to broaden your horizons. Whether you want to gain a specific vocational qualification or try something just to prove you can, there is a world of free and funded opportunities. For example, did you know that top universities offer courses online for free? Or that there are countries where the colleges and universities don’t charge tuition fees? … Continue reading How to bankroll your next move
One take-away from Dan Ariely’s book, The (Honest) Truth about Dishonesty, is that we make worse decisions when we’re stressed. You knew that already but there’s a scientifically proven reason, which is called ego-depletion. What you need to know is that if you have to show serious willpower for a task, cut yourself some slack beforehand. The examples used are around food: to … Continue reading Pace your willpower
Done sensibly, complaining helps you tone up your self-esteem while you help companies manage their reputations. Why you should complain more Good companies, like good people, welcome the chance to correct mistakes or make amends You send a powerful message to yourself that says ‘I can do this’. If you are wronged and say nothing, you are telling yourself that you can’t … Continue reading How to complain
For when you haven’t had a lighter moment in so long that you’ve forgotten what they are.
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Lucie Brownlee is the author of Life After You. A True Story About Love, Loss and Other Disasters
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A blonde, doe-eyed woman who used to flirt with all the males in our group. A mum that wanted me to help her daughter with her homework; the daughter asked if she could draw my boyfriend. An elderly woman who used to get so drunk that Bob had to carry her upstairs to her bed.
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You don’t have to send thank you notes to anyone.
It was a tradition in days gone by but currently most people assume you’re busy grieving and they do not expect thanks. A simple spoken thank you when you next see the person is fine.
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