Children and traumatic grief

We don’t necessarily experience a trauma reaction when a loved one dies but we might and if we do, it is important to understand the workings of trauma. One child in a family might have a trauma reaction to the death of their parent while their brother or sister does not. Children’s symptoms of trauma can be confused with misbehaving so it is even more … Continue reading Children and traumatic grief

Book review: The Owl At The Window

Carl Gorham has written a memoir about life with his wife Vikki, her death and how he got through the first year or so of widowhood with their six-year-old daughter.   I listened to the audiobook version, which is read by comedian Alan Davies. It might be my favourite reading of an audiobook. His voice conveys real warmth and copes equally well with the emotionally … Continue reading Book review: The Owl At The Window

A solo parent’s seasonal cheat sheet

Do all your prep work before mid-October. This is your early Christmas present to yourself. (Obviously get yourself something a bit more fun too.)   Game plan for winter weather   In accordance with what is appropriate to your property: get your boiler serviced, your chimney swept, ensure your pipes are insulted and that you’re stocked up on gritting salt for your paths and driveway. … Continue reading A solo parent’s seasonal cheat sheet

Widowed parents

Ideas to help children celebrate their dad’s birthday

The 19th of November is Children’s Grief Awareness Day. In honour of the great work done by organisations working with bereaved children, here is an article from our archives, first published in Issue 2 of Widows and Widowers magazine. There is also a list of  organisations that support bereaved children, at the end of the post.   Ideas to help children celebrate their dad’s birthday … Continue reading Ideas to help children celebrate their dad’s birthday

Different attitudes across the generations

The elders and youngsters in my family have each handled the death of my husband quite differently. And my approach has been different to both of them. But it turns out that I’m not an island of reasonableness in a sea of eccentrics. We’re just living in a time when there are big differences between the generations.   I lazily think of us as three … Continue reading Different attitudes across the generations