When Ute Amann-Seidel tells me she is building “a community of enjoyment and self-care”, I want that to be as good as it sounds. Later in the interview, when I get round to my list of silly questions – the ones I would think but not normally say – the way she answers them, with kindness, patience, facts, examples and sometimes with a laugh, makes … Continue reading a cup o’ kindness yet (for auld lang syne)
The internet says that the irrational fear of Christmas is called festivalisophobia. I don’t think it’s irrational and it doesn’t have to be about Christmas. It’s about the times you used to love to share with your partner and now they just hurt. And it’s about those big events with family and friends where everyone’s trying a bit too hard, which you can normally … Continue reading Festive season phobia
Every year we put articles on how to get through the Christmas holidays in our winter issue. We have some more lined up for issue 17, coming out on 12th December. But if you can’t wait or just want to see all the previous articles in one place, here they are. Getting Through The Holidays A series of articles from when we asked … Continue reading Best of our Christmas survival guides
If you’ve been happily organising the carols concert since June then this is not for you. But if the very words, jingle bells, bring you out in a cold sweat then we have you covered. Secret Santa Buy them a joke-a-day calendar, a candle in a tin or festive socks and think no more about it. Tinsel all over the place The first … Continue reading A survival guide to Christmas in the workplace
There’s a link here to an article by Megan Devine, which includes a little ceremony of letting go. Sometimes recognising a feeling or experience in another is what we need to let go of that thing. This January edition of our regular round up includes some very relatable accounts of New Year to help us leave the difficult ones behind. Moving Forward Into 2017: … Continue reading New Year reading on the internet
For many people this is the last working day before the Christmas holidays. If Christmas is painful, having to endure it without the distraction of work is a daunting prospect. Each winter issue we publish a list of helplines and online forums that are open for all or most of the holidays. Here is this year’s one. Also, have a look out for hashtags connecting … Continue reading Open all hours
I was still at primary school when I decided that I didn’t much care for Christmas. This year I see it a bit differently.
Continue reading “A different tree”
We asked the excellent writers featured in our last issue, if they had any advice on getting through the holidays. Mark Liebenow “We aren’t obligated to be happy during the holidays, and can say “No” to all invitations. Do what nourishes you and ignore the rest.” Elaine Mansfield “My family and I create a Solstice ritual every year around December 21. We … Continue reading How do you get through the holidays?
Do all your prep work before mid-October. This is your early Christmas present to yourself. (Obviously get yourself something a bit more fun too.) Game plan for winter weather In accordance with what is appropriate to your property: get your boiler serviced, your chimney swept, ensure your pipes are insulted and that you’re stocked up on gritting salt for your paths and driveway. … Continue reading A solo parent’s seasonal cheat sheet
If you’re thinking you could do with a holiday but can’t manage under your current circumstances then we might have some ideas to help.
Continue reading “Holiday Your Way”
It’s not until next weekend but the adverts are on the television already, so if you’re starting to feel uneasy, here is one widow’s thought on Valentine’s Day.
Continue reading “A widow’s Valentine’s Day”
Imagine being able to tap into a network of people, talking in real time, about the same experiences you’re going through. People who let you unload your feelings and try to answer your questions at any time of the day or night. Online forums for widowed people are out there and growing in number.
Continue reading “Need a hangout?”