Know your rights to sick pay

Citizen’s Advice issued a statement in February, saying that some employers are tricking their employees out of sick pay.   The most common tactics they see are: The cancelling of shifts after an employee has called in sick, so that it looks as if they weren’t meant to be working and therefore no wages appear to have been lost Reducing hours or wages so that … Continue reading Know your rights to sick pay

What ecotherapy can do for you

How did we survive life’s ups and downs for all those millennia before therapists came along? Ecotherapy suggests that our everyday connection to the natural world played a large part.   By going for a stroll in a park, spending time in our garden or even bringing plants into our homes, we can tap into a bit of nature’s calming, head-clearing powers without disrupting our … Continue reading What ecotherapy can do for you

Common conditions that share symptoms with grief

The standard advice is that grief is hard on your physical and mental health so feeling awful in the early days is normal. When we ask how long before we can expect to stop feeling awful, we’re told that it’s different for everyone.   There is a world of good intentions in this advice. It’s a reaction against years of bereaved people being expected to … Continue reading Common conditions that share symptoms with grief

Try this

In 1988, psychologist James Pennebaker asked 50 university students to write about either something traumatic or something unimportant, for fifteen to twenty minutes, for four days in a row. Their health and visits to their doctor were measured six weeks after the writing exercise. The researchers found that students who had written about something traumatic, went on to show boosted immune function, lowered blood pressure, … Continue reading Try this

One bit of good news if grief has left holes in your memory

The best friendships are between people who rely on each other to remember the things they’ve shared. This is the finding of a study reported in The British Psychological Society’s Research Digest.   We know that many couples have interconnected memory systems. This is another of the big and rarely mentioned losses of widowhood. But researchers have now looked at platonic friends and found a … Continue reading One bit of good news if grief has left holes in your memory

Family strife: A short resource guide

A little understanding and a fresh perspective can go a long way.   The Association of Family Therapy www.aft.org.uk   When Difficult Relatives Happen to Good People by Dr Leonard Felder (also a book but this talk is gently humorous) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YYd87Be594Y   Coping with Difficult Families by Dr Jane McGregor and Tim McGregor   Families and how to Survive Them by Robin Skynner and John … Continue reading Family strife: A short resource guide

What we talk about when we talk about grief

Kids don’t like being called kids but they’ll proudly tell you their precise age. Adults too, prefer to define themselves rather than have a label stuck on them. As an adult and former kid, maybe this is why I’m getting bored of the word grief.   There’s more going on with me than grief and grief too has more going on inside it.   To find … Continue reading What we talk about when we talk about grief