The messy stuff of being human that most grief books don’t mention

The people that Julia Samuels talks about in her book, Grief Works. Stories of Life, Death and Surviving, are complicated.   The first story tells of a woman living with her dying husband while having an affair. Their marriage had been difficult and after his death she spiraled out of control. We read of her path to finding some stability and calm.   In the … Continue reading The messy stuff of being human that most grief books don’t mention

Book review: The Owl At The Window

Carl Gorham has written a memoir about life with his wife Vikki, her death and how he got through the first year or so of widowhood with their six-year-old daughter.   I listened to the audiobook version, which is read by comedian Alan Davies. It might be my favourite reading of an audiobook. His voice conveys real warmth and copes equally well with the emotionally … Continue reading Book review: The Owl At The Window

Review: All At Sea by Decca Aitkenhead

Decca is a British journalist whose first book was The Promised Land. Travels in search of the perfect E. I read her in Cosmopolitan in my twenties and she now writes about politics, the arts and more for The Guardian. She’s always seemed razor-sharp and fearless and she brings every ounce of that to her new book, All at Sea. The story tells of her … Continue reading Review: All At Sea by Decca Aitkenhead

Review: Bough Down by Karen Green

Like Imtiaz Dharker, Green is an artist as well as poet and her pictures illustrate this collection of poems.   The images in the pictures are fragmented and obscured, which echo the feel of the poems as they sift through events for shards of meaning.   Her husband was a well-known novelist who died by suicide and there is a pervasive sense of shock and … Continue reading Review: Bough Down by Karen Green

Book review: The Girl You Left Behind By Jojo Moyes

Jojo Moyes has a huge following and is maybe best known for Me Before You, which was recently made into a film. That book’s sequel, After You, deals with a young woman figuring out her life after the death of her boyfriend.   This book, The Girl You Left Behind, was published in the same year as Me Before You and centres around a French … Continue reading Book review: The Girl You Left Behind By Jojo Moyes

Christmas in grief memoirs

There are few feelings better than someone saying exactly how you’re feeling, especially when you can’t find the words yourself. We’ve gathered together some words about Christmas from some superb widowed memoirs and the last one is from a radio show.   Genevieve Davis Ginsburg was a marriage counsellor when her husband died. Her book is a practical how-to, with the insight of how her … Continue reading Christmas in grief memoirs

Book review: The Widow Waltz by Sally Koslow

Georgia Waltz had the perfect, super-swanky everything until her husband dropped dead while training for the New York City marathon. She then discovered there was rather a lot he hadn’t told her, most pressingly, that they had no money.   This is not a how-to on regaining solvency after losing it all but it is an escapist caper about rich New Yorkers, laced with some … Continue reading Book review: The Widow Waltz by Sally Koslow

Our interview with Amy Biancolli

There is so much warmth in Amy’s book, Figuring Shit Out, about the first weeks and months after her husband’s suicide. And if you live in a part of the world where there are not neighbourhood bands and neighbours don’t respond to grief with an extensive rota of hot meals then you might want to start some new traditions.   Q: You’ve done a TEDx … Continue reading Our interview with Amy Biancolli

Our interview with Mark Liebenow

If Mark’s writings don’t have you packing a rucksack or at least taking a stroll through the park then he’ll undoubtedly have you wandering around Yosemite in your imagination. Grief is a natural process and by turning to nature when his wife died, Mark shows us how it can help us soothe the pain and find balance and meaning again.   Q: You write a … Continue reading Our interview with Mark Liebenow

Our interview with Kristin Meekhof

Kristin’s A Widow’s Guide to Healing is the manual for getting through the first five years. Along with emotional support and lots of practical advice, there are quotes from dozens of different widows on how they experienced each aspect of widowhood. I love a checklist because it implies someone has properly thought through their advice. Kristin’s checklists can be downloaded from her website so you … Continue reading Our interview with Kristin Meekhof

Our interview with Elaine Mansfield

Elaine’s blog is a great place to read about spiritual dimensions of grief and the comments section is always busy with people sharing their stories. Her book, Leaning Into Love, focuses on taking grief as something through which we can learn many lessons and derive a lot of strength if we allow ourselves to see it that way and to learn from ancient wisdom.   … Continue reading Our interview with Elaine Mansfield