Book review: Chase The Rainbow by Poorna Bell

Poorna Bell’s Chase The Rainbow tackles three of widowhood’s biggest taboos and shows they don’t have to destroy you or your love for your partner.   Around the middle of the book Poorna points out how friends talk in endless detail about their relationships but once they marry they say much less. There is a similar thing with widowed people and lies. Anything a person … Continue reading Book review: Chase The Rainbow by Poorna Bell

Book review: It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand by Megan Devine

Megan Devine’s new book is brave but not in the way people who haven’t been through a tragedy say that about those who have; I mean like putting your head in a lion’s mouth, brave.   She strides calmly into the howling abyss of the early days of grief, to meet the newly bereaved where they are. She is a psychotherapist and also a widow. … Continue reading Book review: It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand by Megan Devine

Book review: Thinking Out Loud. Love, Grief and Being Mum and Dad by Rio Ferdinand

This is a much-needed voice in grief memoirs. Rio Ferdinand is, by his own description, a very cold fish, or he was until his wife died. That she didn’t get to see the more open, warmer man that he has become is only one of the regrets with which he contends.   I was wrong to think that this book would simply be a written … Continue reading Book review: Thinking Out Loud. Love, Grief and Being Mum and Dad by Rio Ferdinand

Book review: The Grief Survival Guide by Jeff Brazier

Jeff Brazier’s Grief Survival Guide is down-to-earth, packed full of good advice and not afraid of tackling the more difficult aspects of bereavement.   This is a book that says okay, this situation is awful but it’s happening so let’s roll up our sleeves and tackle it. The only problem I have with it is that calling the book a bereavement guide means most people … Continue reading Book review: The Grief Survival Guide by Jeff Brazier

Book review: My Mourning Year. A Memoir of Bereavement Discovery and Hope by Andrew Marshall

Andrew Marshall says he is campaigning for a mourning year to be recognised as the amount of time during which the bereaved need extra support. His new book, My Mourning Year. A Memoir of Bereavement, Discovery and Hope, shows that he doesn’t mean support as in being cocooned; he means a more realistic understanding of grief so that the bereaved can be supported in living … Continue reading Book review: My Mourning Year. A Memoir of Bereavement Discovery and Hope by Andrew Marshall

The messy stuff of being human that most grief books don’t mention

The people that Julia Samuels talks about in her book, Grief Works. Stories of Life, Death and Surviving, are complicated.   The first story tells of a woman living with her dying husband while having an affair. Their marriage had been difficult and after his death she spiraled out of control. We read of her path to finding some stability and calm.   In the … Continue reading The messy stuff of being human that most grief books don’t mention

Book review: The Owl At The Window

Carl Gorham has written a memoir about life with his wife Vikki, her death and how he got through the first year or so of widowhood with their six-year-old daughter.   I listened to the audiobook version, which is read by comedian Alan Davies. It might be my favourite reading of an audiobook. His voice conveys real warmth and copes equally well with the emotionally … Continue reading Book review: The Owl At The Window

Review: All At Sea by Decca Aitkenhead

Decca is a British journalist whose first book was The Promised Land. Travels in search of the perfect E. I read her in Cosmopolitan in my twenties and she now writes about politics, the arts and more for The Guardian. She’s always seemed razor-sharp and fearless and she brings every ounce of that to her new book, All at Sea. The story tells of her … Continue reading Review: All At Sea by Decca Aitkenhead

Review: Bough Down by Karen Green

Like Imtiaz Dharker, Green is an artist as well as poet and her pictures illustrate this collection of poems.   The images in the pictures are fragmented and obscured, which echo the feel of the poems as they sift through events for shards of meaning.   Her husband was a well-known novelist who died by suicide and there is a pervasive sense of shock and … Continue reading Review: Bough Down by Karen Green

Book review: The Girl You Left Behind By Jojo Moyes

Jojo Moyes has a huge following and is maybe best known for Me Before You, which was recently made into a film. That book’s sequel, After You, deals with a young woman figuring out her life after the death of her boyfriend.   This book, The Girl You Left Behind, was published in the same year as Me Before You and centres around a French … Continue reading Book review: The Girl You Left Behind By Jojo Moyes

Christmas in grief memoirs

There are few feelings better than someone saying exactly how you’re feeling, especially when you can’t find the words yourself. We’ve gathered together some words about Christmas from some superb widowed memoirs and the last one is from a radio show.   Genevieve Davis Ginsburg was a marriage counsellor when her husband died. Her book is a practical how-to, with the insight of how her … Continue reading Christmas in grief memoirs