When the woman cutting my hair says she remembers me from my last appointment my heart sinks. What did I say? How did I gloss over any potential awkwardness and along what unlikely road did that take us? I never used to see the appeal of lying: too much stuff to remember; too much stupidity to feel if found out. Then again, blatantly obvious … Continue reading A new me: the forgetful liar
Like muscle density, balance is one of those things we don’t notice until it starts to diminish. Tackle both with these simple exercises to keep you steady on your pins and standing tall. If you already have a problem with balance or a medical condition that affects your balance, talk to your GP first. Stand on one leg Use the back of … Continue reading Build up your balance
Carl Gorham has written a memoir about life with his wife Vikki, her death and how he got through the first year or so of widowhood with their six-year-old daughter. I listened to the audiobook version, which is read by comedian Alan Davies. It might be my favourite reading of an audiobook. His voice conveys real warmth and copes equally well with the emotionally … Continue reading Book review: The Owl At The Window
Summer cleaning sounds like an ordeal when your house is crammed full of memories. If you want to lighten the load and make space for some new life to enter, it can be hard to know where to start. Why not pick an approach that feels like a way you’d like to be, and see where it takes you. Three possibilities are: be a … Continue reading Three ways to sort your stuff
Long before I’d heard the words, impostor syndrome, the most successful of my friends told me that every day he expected to be found out and fired from his job. I held my breath, wondering what he’d done that would result in such a drastic outcome. He frowned, looking as if he was asking himself the same question. He knew he was good at … Continue reading What Is Your Impostor Syndrome Trying To Tell You?
To create the quotes page I got to re-read some of my favourite books. They took me back to the first weeks and months and that percolated into these. The job of comforting the comforters. And note to self: When I try to make my existence easier on other people, this is what I’m doing. Continue reading Doodles
If your glasses work best when they’re perched on the top of your head then maybe you should be demanding better service. Service from yourself that is. Consider your maintenance contract. If you were to buy it from someone else, would you sign? Do you go to regular check-ups? Are you happy with your GP? Would you be able to spot your dentist in a … Continue reading Give yourself an upgrade
This would be a perfect candy of glamour and mischief if only it wasn’t over too soon. Why do characters in costume dramas have to speak so quickly? The dialogue in this film is a fizzy delight but only if you have extremely quick-witted hearing, or if like me, you turn on the subtitles and then use the pause button to read it. … Continue reading Film review: Love and Friendship
They say you can get away with anything if you walk purposefully and carry a clipboard. At times of uncertainty we all look for the person who seems to know what they’re doing but those are the times when it is most important to be that person in your life. Okay, let’s be honest: none of us really know what we’re doing. At best … Continue reading Statement of intent
We all have financial bad habits. Grief can throw us so far off our game that we don’t even see them. These three ways of thinking are common.
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In tough times our social capital is every bit as important as our financial resources. But it’s a mistake to think of them as separate. There are lots of old and new ways of connecting with others that also boost your bottom line.
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Amidst the froth and scattiness, Helen Fielding treats her heroine’s response to grief with light but splendid realism.
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