When Ute Amann-Seidel tells me she is building “a community of enjoyment and self-care”, I want that to be as good as it sounds. Later in the interview, when I get round to my list of silly questions – the ones I would think but not normally say – the way she answers them, with kindness, patience, facts, examples and sometimes with a laugh, makes … Continue reading a cup o’ kindness yet (for auld lang syne)
For this winter’s issue we have tried to catch up on some of the superb new bereavement books that have come out in recent weeks. If you’re not sure where to start, there’s a guide to finding your own bereavement tribe. And our article from the archives is a superb double from a family therapist. We’ve compiled a guide to get you through the … Continue reading Winter issue out now
Every year we put articles on how to get through the Christmas holidays in our winter issue. We have some more lined up for issue 17, coming out on 12th December. But if you can’t wait or just want to see all the previous articles in one place, here they are. Getting Through The Holidays A series of articles from when we asked … Continue reading Best of our Christmas survival guides
More podcasts are springing up about grief so you can create your own grief radio station and hear voices of experience any time you need it. If you’re new to podcasts, don’t worry. If you’re reading this on a computer, tablet or phone, you already have all the technology you need. Your device probably came with a default podcast app, so just tap or … Continue reading Grief radio
Thinking you’ve left it too late to do what you really want to do? Think again. Vera Wang – designer After a childhood as a championship figure skater, Vera studied art history and worked as a fashion journalist until she was 38. Only then did she go to work for fashion designer Ralph Lauren. She stayed for two years before starting her own bridal … Continue reading Late bloomers
In A Widow’s Story, Joyce Carol Oates shows how she was driven slightly demented by “the sympathy siege”. Most of us experience a version of this so here are a few ideas on how to push back. In the days after her husband’s death, Joyce Carol Oates describes how her house fills with gifts of large floral arrangements and baskets of gourmet food. She … Continue reading What to say
Each issue of the magazine has a confessions section where our contributors say the things they wouldn’t normally admit to in public. We’ve looked through our back issues to bring you these. “Without having to say a word, my postman understands that right now I don’t want to answer the door. My best friend, after many explanations, doesn’t get it. Right now I like … Continue reading From our confessions section archive
For many people this is the last working day before the Christmas holidays. If Christmas is painful, having to endure it without the distraction of work is a daunting prospect. Each winter issue we publish a list of helplines and online forums that are open for all or most of the holidays. Here is this year’s one. Also, have a look out for hashtags connecting … Continue reading Open all hours
I was still at primary school when I decided that I didn’t much care for Christmas. This year I see it a bit differently.
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We asked the excellent writers featured in our last issue, if they had any advice on getting through the holidays. Mark Liebenow “We aren’t obligated to be happy during the holidays, and can say “No” to all invitations. Do what nourishes you and ignore the rest.” Elaine Mansfield “My family and I create a Solstice ritual every year around December 21. We … Continue reading How do you get through the holidays?
…because I’m bored of talking about it …because I’m having a day of it and I might cry and I don’t want to cry …because I don’t expect you to understand unless you’ve been through it yourself but you’ll want to try to understand and I’ll want to try to appreciate that and we’ll both end up feeling a bit strained and fake … Continue reading A word to the not widowed: Sometimes I don’t want to talk about it because…
There is so much warmth in Amy’s book, Figuring Shit Out, about the first weeks and months after her husband’s suicide. And if you live in a part of the world where there are not neighbourhood bands and neighbours don’t respond to grief with an extensive rota of hot meals then you might want to start some new traditions. Q: You’ve done a TEDx … Continue reading Our interview with Amy Biancolli