a cup o’ kindness yet (for auld lang syne)

When Ute Amann-Seidel tells me she is building “a community of enjoyment and self-care”, I want that to be as good as it sounds. Later in the interview, when I get round to my list of silly questions – the ones I would think but not normally say – the way she answers them, with kindness, patience, facts, examples and sometimes with a laugh, makes … Continue reading a cup o’ kindness yet (for auld lang syne)

Winter issue out now

For this winter’s issue we have tried to catch up on some of the superb new bereavement books that have come out in recent weeks. If you’re not sure where to start, there’s a guide to finding your own bereavement tribe. And our article from the archives is a superb double from a family therapist.   We’ve compiled a guide to get you through the … Continue reading Winter issue out now

Best of our Christmas survival guides

Every year we put articles on how to get through the Christmas holidays in our winter issue. We have some more lined up for issue 17, coming out on 12th December. But if you can’t wait or just want to see all the previous articles in one place, here they are.     Getting Through The Holidays A series of articles from when we asked … Continue reading Best of our Christmas survival guides

From our confessions section archive

Each issue of the magazine has a confessions section where our contributors say the things they wouldn’t normally admit to in public. We’ve looked through our back issues to bring you these.   “Without having to say a word, my postman understands that right now I don’t want to answer the door. My best friend, after many explanations, doesn’t get it. Right now I like … Continue reading From our confessions section archive

How do you get through the holidays?

We asked the excellent writers featured in our last issue, if they had any advice on getting through the holidays.   Mark Liebenow “We aren’t obligated to be happy during the holidays, and can say “No” to all invitations. Do what nourishes you and ignore the rest.”     Elaine Mansfield “My family and I create a Solstice ritual every year around December 21. We … Continue reading How do you get through the holidays?

A word to the not widowed: Sometimes I don’t want to talk about it because…

…because I’m bored of talking about it   …because I’m having a day of it and I might cry and I don’t want to cry   …because I don’t expect you to understand unless you’ve been through it yourself but you’ll want to try to understand and I’ll want to try to appreciate that and we’ll both end up feeling a bit strained and fake … Continue reading A word to the not widowed: Sometimes I don’t want to talk about it because…

Our interview with Amy Biancolli

There is so much warmth in Amy’s book, Figuring Shit Out, about the first weeks and months after her husband’s suicide. And if you live in a part of the world where there are not neighbourhood bands and neighbours don’t respond to grief with an extensive rota of hot meals then you might want to start some new traditions.   Q: You’ve done a TEDx … Continue reading Our interview with Amy Biancolli