From our confessions section archive

Each issue of the magazine has a confessions section where our contributors say the things they wouldn’t normally admit to in public. We’ve looked through our back issues to bring you these.   “Without having to say a word, my postman understands that right now I don’t want to answer the door. My best friend, after many explanations, doesn’t get it. Right now I like … Continue reading From our confessions section archive

A different tree

I was still at primary school when I decided that I didn’t much care for Christmas. This year I see it a bit differently.
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How do you get through the holidays?

We asked the excellent writers featured in our last issue, if they had any advice on getting through the holidays.   Mark Liebenow “We aren’t obligated to be happy during the holidays, and can say “No” to all invitations. Do what nourishes you and ignore the rest.”     Elaine Mansfield “My family and I create a Solstice ritual every year around December 21. We … Continue reading How do you get through the holidays?

A word to the not widowed: Sometimes I don’t want to talk about it because…

…because I’m bored of talking about it   …because I’m having a day of it and I might cry and I don’t want to cry   …because I don’t expect you to understand unless you’ve been through it yourself but you’ll want to try to understand and I’ll want to try to appreciate that and we’ll both end up feeling a bit strained and fake … Continue reading A word to the not widowed: Sometimes I don’t want to talk about it because…

Our interview with Amy Biancolli

There is so much warmth in Amy’s book, Figuring Shit Out, about the first weeks and months after her husband’s suicide. And if you live in a part of the world where there are not neighbourhood bands and neighbours don’t respond to grief with an extensive rota of hot meals then you might want to start some new traditions.   Q: You’ve done a TEDx … Continue reading Our interview with Amy Biancolli

Our interview with Mark Liebenow

If Mark’s writings don’t have you packing a rucksack or at least taking a stroll through the park then he’ll undoubtedly have you wandering around Yosemite in your imagination. Grief is a natural process and by turning to nature when his wife died, Mark shows us how it can help us soothe the pain and find balance and meaning again.   Q: You write a … Continue reading Our interview with Mark Liebenow

Our interview with Kristin Meekhof

Kristin’s A Widow’s Guide to Healing is the manual for getting through the first five years. Along with emotional support and lots of practical advice, there are quotes from dozens of different widows on how they experienced each aspect of widowhood. I love a checklist because it implies someone has properly thought through their advice. Kristin’s checklists can be downloaded from her website so you … Continue reading Our interview with Kristin Meekhof

Our interview with Elaine Mansfield

Elaine’s blog is a great place to read about spiritual dimensions of grief and the comments section is always busy with people sharing their stories. Her book, Leaning Into Love, focuses on taking grief as something through which we can learn many lessons and derive a lot of strength if we allow ourselves to see it that way and to learn from ancient wisdom.   … Continue reading Our interview with Elaine Mansfield

Need a hangout?

Imagine being able to tap into a network of people, talking in real time, about the same experiences you’re going through. People who let you unload your feelings and try to answer your questions at any time of the day or night. Online forums for widowed people are out there and growing in number.
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