Few of us react to bereavement the way we thought we would. More surprising is how it affects the people around us. If it has brought out the worst in your nearest and dearest, you are not alone. In Issue 9 we interviewed Karen Holford of the Association of Family Therapy about whether it is ever best to cut ties with family. She put … Continue reading When widowhood is a battleground
We don’t necessarily experience a trauma reaction when a loved one dies but we might and if we do, it is important to understand the workings of trauma. One child in a family might have a trauma reaction to the death of their parent while their brother or sister does not. Children’s symptoms of trauma can be confused with misbehaving so it is even more … Continue reading Children and traumatic grief
Every year we put articles on how to get through the Christmas holidays in our winter issue. We have some more lined up for issue 17, coming out on 12th December. But if you can’t wait or just want to see all the previous articles in one place, here they are. Getting Through The Holidays A series of articles from when we asked … Continue reading Best of our Christmas survival guides
They say you can get away with anything if you walk purposefully and carry a clipboard. At times of uncertainty we all look for the person who seems to know what they’re doing but those are the times when it is most important to be that person in your life. Okay, let’s be honest: none of us really know what we’re doing. At best … Continue reading Statement of intent
Q: My brother and sister think my elderly mother should move in with me. Is there any help available as she gets more frail? A: The first step is to ask yourself if you truly want your mum to move in with you. Better to find an alternative now than go through the stress of it not working and inflicting two moves on your … Continue reading Q&A: My siblings think my frail mum should move in with me
A little understanding and a fresh perspective can go a long way. The Association of Family Therapy www.aft.org.uk When Difficult Relatives Happen to Good People by Dr Leonard Felder (also a book but this talk is gently humorous) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YYd87Be594Y Coping with Difficult Families by Dr Jane McGregor and Tim McGregor Families and how to Survive Them by Robin Skynner and John … Continue reading Family strife: A short resource guide
Do all your prep work before mid-October. This is your early Christmas present to yourself. (Obviously get yourself something a bit more fun too.) Game plan for winter weather In accordance with what is appropriate to your property: get your boiler serviced, your chimney swept, ensure your pipes are insulted and that you’re stocked up on gritting salt for your paths and driveway. … Continue reading A solo parent’s seasonal cheat sheet
Q: It’s been a year and my sister thinks I should be over it by now. My sister-in-law agrees with her. They say they miss my husband as much as I do but that wasting my life is not the answer. I know they’re right but I don’t feel like joining the big rowdy girls’ nights that I used to enjoy. A: A few … Continue reading Q&A: My sister thinks I should be over it by now
If you are worried about children leaving home at the end of this summer, specifically, dreading how you’ll feel without them, then a bit of acceptance and some planning will help.
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Three things you can do with your children to help you all support each other after a bereavement, by Karen Holford of the Association of Family Therapy.
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A grieving dog or mourning cat is a heartbreaking thing to see but there are ways to help. How to tell if you have a grieving pet You might notice that they seem withdrawn or a bit more clingy than usual. There could be some loss of appetite or general lethargy. Favourite toys might no longer be of interest and a cat might … Continue reading Comforting a grieving pet
The 19th of November is Children’s Grief Awareness Day. In honour of the great work done by organisations working with bereaved children, here is an article from our archives, first published in Issue 2 of Widows and Widowers magazine. There is also a list of organisations that support bereaved children, at the end of the post. Ideas to help children celebrate their dad’s birthday … Continue reading Ideas to help children celebrate their dad’s birthday