They say you can get away with anything if you walk purposefully and carry a clipboard. At times of uncertainty we all look for the person who seems to know what they’re doing but those are the times when it is most important to be that person in your life. Okay, let’s be honest: none of us really know what we’re doing. At best … Continue reading Statement of intent
Q: My brother and sister think my elderly mother should move in with me. Is there any help available as she gets more frail? A: The first step is to ask yourself if you truly want your mum to move in with you. Better to find an alternative now than go through the stress of it not working and inflicting two moves on your … Continue reading Q&A: My siblings think my frail mum should move in with me
A little understanding and a fresh perspective can go a long way. The Association of Family Therapy www.aft.org.uk When Difficult Relatives Happen to Good People by Dr Leonard Felder (also a book but this talk is gently humorous) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YYd87Be594Y Coping with Difficult Families by Dr Jane McGregor and Tim McGregor Families and how to Survive Them by Robin Skynner and John … Continue reading Family strife: A short resource guide
Q: It’s been a year and my sister thinks I should be over it by now. My sister-in-law agrees with her. They say they miss my husband as much as I do but that wasting my life is not the answer. I know they’re right but I don’t feel like joining the big rowdy girls’ nights that I used to enjoy. A: A few … Continue reading Q&A: My sister thinks I should be over it by now
If you are worried about children leaving home at the end of this summer, specifically, dreading how you’ll feel without them, then a bit of acceptance and some planning will help.
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Three things you can do with your children to help you all support each other after a bereavement, by Karen Holford of the Association of Family Therapy.
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A grieving dog or mourning cat is a heartbreaking thing to see but there are ways to help. How to tell if you have a grieving pet You might notice that they seem withdrawn or a bit more clingy than usual. There could be some loss of appetite or general lethargy. Favourite toys might no longer be of interest and a cat might … Continue reading Comforting a grieving pet
The 19th of November is Children’s Grief Awareness Day. In honour of the great work done by organisations working with bereaved children, here is an article from our archives, first published in Issue 2 of Widows and Widowers magazine. There is also a list of organisations that support bereaved children, at the end of the post. Ideas to help children celebrate their dad’s birthday … Continue reading Ideas to help children celebrate their dad’s birthday
We asked a few bereavement support groups at hospices up and down the country if they could share with us a few tips for getting through the holidays. Over the next six weeks I’ll post what they sent. The complete collection will be published in the winter edition of the magazine, which comes out on 12th December. Overgate Hospice, Elland, West Yorkshire … Continue reading Getting through the holidays – part 1 of 6
Parents-in-law want to feel that their experience is recognised and all their hard work in raising a family is appreciated. We want to be recognised as fellow grown-ups with plenty experience of our own thank you, and to have our own sacrifices noted once in a while. Those are the basics. On top of that, your mother-in-law might want to have your children live … Continue reading Give and take with the in-laws
He used to spend nearly half his time with us. Now I never see him. There were a few, awkward visits with his mum, in the months after his dad died, but now we only do birthday and Christmas stuff in the post. He’s a shy adolescent who’s been through too much already. I don’t want to be a boring obligation but I don’t … Continue reading Keeping in touch with stepchildren
The elders and youngsters in my family have each handled the death of my husband quite differently. And my approach has been different to both of them. But it turns out that I’m not an island of reasonableness in a sea of eccentrics. We’re just living in a time when there are big differences between the generations. I lazily think of us as three … Continue reading Different attitudes across the generations