Q&A: My siblings think my frail mum should move in with me

Q: My brother and sister think my elderly mother should move in with me. Is there any help available as she gets more frail?   A: The first step is to ask yourself if you truly want your mum to move in with you. Better to find an alternative now than go through the stress of it not working and inflicting two moves on your … Continue reading Q&A: My siblings think my frail mum should move in with me

Family strife: A short resource guide

A little understanding and a fresh perspective can go a long way.   The Association of Family Therapy www.aft.org.uk   When Difficult Relatives Happen to Good People by Dr Leonard Felder (also a book but this talk is gently humorous) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YYd87Be594Y   Coping with Difficult Families by Dr Jane McGregor and Tim McGregor   Families and how to Survive Them by Robin Skynner and John … Continue reading Family strife: A short resource guide

Empty nest syndrome

If you are worried about children leaving home at the end of this summer, specifically, dreading how you’ll feel without them, then a bit of acceptance and some planning will help.
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Three ways to build support and empathy in your family

Three things you can do with your children to help you all support each other after a bereavement, by Karen Holford of the Association of Family Therapy.
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Widowed parents

Ideas to help children celebrate their dad’s birthday

The 19th of November is Children’s Grief Awareness Day. In honour of the great work done by organisations working with bereaved children, here is an article from our archives, first published in Issue 2 of Widows and Widowers magazine. There is also a list of  organisations that support bereaved children, at the end of the post.   Ideas to help children celebrate their dad’s birthday … Continue reading Ideas to help children celebrate their dad’s birthday

Getting through the holidays – part 1 of 6

We asked a few bereavement support groups at hospices up and down the country if they could share with us a few tips for getting through the holidays. Over the next six weeks I’ll post what they sent. The complete collection will be published in the winter edition of the magazine, which comes out on 12th December.     Overgate Hospice, Elland, West Yorkshire   … Continue reading Getting through the holidays – part 1 of 6

Different attitudes across the generations

The elders and youngsters in my family have each handled the death of my husband quite differently. And my approach has been different to both of them. But it turns out that I’m not an island of reasonableness in a sea of eccentrics. We’re just living in a time when there are big differences between the generations.   I lazily think of us as three … Continue reading Different attitudes across the generations