Film review: Love and Friendship

This would be a perfect candy of glamour and mischief if only it wasn’t over too soon.   Why do characters in costume dramas have to speak so quickly? The dialogue in this film is a fizzy delight but only if you have extremely quick-witted hearing, or if like me, you turn on the subtitles…

Statement of intent

They say you can get away with anything if you walk purposefully and carry a clipboard. At times of uncertainty we all look for the person who seems to know what they’re doing but those are the times when it is most important to be that person in your life.   Okay, let’s be honest:…

What not to do

We all have financial bad habits. Grief can throw us so far off our game that we don’t even see them. These three ways of thinking are common.

Book review: Bridget Jones Mad About the Boy by Helen Fielding

Amidst the froth and scattiness, Helen Fielding treats her heroine’s response to grief with light but splendid realism.

Late bloomers

Thinking you’ve left it too late to do what you really want to do? Think again.   Vera Wang – designer After a childhood as a championship figure skater, Vera studied art history and worked as a fashion journalist until she was 38. Only then did she go to work for fashion designer Ralph Lauren….

How to bankroll your next move

It might be easier than you think to broaden your horizons. Whether you want to gain a specific vocational qualification or try something just to prove you can, there is a world of free and funded opportunities.   For example, did you know that top universities offer courses online for free? Or that there are…

Film review: Lilting

2014   Little is shown in the cinema of how much bereaved people struggle to be kind to one another while containing the fury churned up by loss. We tie ourselves in knots. We fail. Mired in shame and remorse, we have no choice but to keep moving forward.   The films that have ventured…

A big week for bereavement phone-ins

Tonight BBC1 will broadcast footballer Rio Ferdinand’s documentary about raising three children after being widowed.   This week bereavement is a talking point on radio shows and in the press. As always, many bereaved people taking part say that what helped them most was hearing from other bereaved people. We couldn’t agree more so we’ve…

What to say

In A Widow’s Story, Joyce Carol Oates shows how she was driven slightly demented by “the sympathy siege”. Most of us experience a version of this so here are a few ideas on how to push back.   In the days after her husband’s death, Joyce Carol Oates describes how her house fills with gifts…

Undone by technology

I need to cancel my membership of a group. It was a fun thing to do with my husband but without him it would be too dull for words. I should do it today before another year’s fees are removed from my bank account.   I dig out the membership renewal letter that arrived last…

From our confessions section archive

Each issue of the magazine has a confessions section where our contributors say the things they wouldn’t normally admit to in public. We’ve looked through our back issues to bring you these.   “Without having to say a word, my postman understands that right now I don’t want to answer the door. My best friend,…